Them: Yes ___ No ___

There are a couple of close friends that I like to do things with and I feel like I have to save up my energy prior to being with either one of them. They are talkers. They talk about things that I don’t find the least bit stimulating, like a blow-by-blow account of their last shopping trip.

They are both very dear people, but I found myself putting off our time together on more than one occasion. If you’re not a talkative person, someone who is can be an energy drain.

It’s hard to find that balance with couples. But if there isn’t some sense of balance, it will wear on each of you. I enjoy the author, John Gray’s “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” concept of men needing to retreat to their cave when they come in from a day’s work. While women find satisfaction in detailing every step of the day. Again, even though that is a generalization, he points out the vast difference in communication requirements between men and women.

I personally marvel that you could take two individuals who were raised in completely different households, communities and even states and find ample commonality between them to warrant their believing that they could live harmoniously in one household. Then add the fact that one is female while the other is male, it’s truly amazing!

Spontaneous: Them: Yes ___ No ___

I love surprises! I love being swept off of my feet. It is a cherished mate who plans surprises and expends extra effort to break the monotony routine life can create.

I realize that this is not everyone’s dream mate, but if it is and you know by now that you’re not bound to be the recipient of spontaneous actions, don’t take it out on them. If they are not spontaneous, they are not!
Complimentary: Them: Yes ___ No ___

I know I get caught up in what I need to do sometimes and forget to acknowledge others. I try to compliment someone every day. It becomes a game. Who gets the compliment for the day?

It can be a challenge, be it provides me a great deal of joy to watch people’s reaction. It’s a wonderful feeling because they know I am sincere and I love watching their face light up.