Who wants that title hanging over their head? Somehow I escaped any serious repercussions, as in accidents or being stopped by law enforcement. Others weren’t as fortunate.
I enjoy having wine with dinner, champagne with my family and even an occasional mixed drink at a function. But I don’t enjoy being around people who drink or do anything in excess.
That doesn’t mean that everyone feels the same. Several of my acquaintances don’t drink wine and refuse to have alcohol in their homes. I’m not as likely to have dinner with them as I am with other friends who will indulge.
Whichever you find you prefer, try to keep your associations within the same references. Then you’ll be able to avoid future discomforts concerning drugs and alcohol.
Smokes: Them: Yes ___ No ___
Do they smoke? If you are like me and happen to be an ex-smoker who developed an extreme allergy to smoking, whether they smoke or not, is a major issue. The smell on their clothes alone can inspire a major allergic reaction.
Anti-drugs: Them: Yes ___ No ___
One of my absolutes is “no drugs of any kind” ever. I often get challenged because I don’t consider alcohol a drug, but my concern is that I am not comfortable being around anyone who needs to smoke a joint on a regular basis or have any other substance including alcohol that controls his or her life.
At one time in my life I nearly became an alcoholic because of the people I associated with. Not that I am that easily led at this point in my life, but before I realized it, every single function I attended became a non-stop marathon of drinking. All within the context of social drinking, but it really was abusive. If my glass was empty, I was a party pooper.