Friends With Ex

Friends With Ex: Them: Yes ___ No ___

My ex and I still email on occasion. I still respect his opinion and after 15 years I have found he is still one of the most intelligent men I’ve ever known. Well, I’ve known many intelligent men, but usually they bore me! I guess it’s the balance that I admire. His wife doesn’t mind the connection between us. I make sure it isn’t intrusive.

Most often I believe when a women is done with a relationship, she’s completely done! Unless there are children involved. When I talk to men about past relationships, they don’t mind keeping in touch with their past partners.

The quandary is how could you love someone enough to be married or living with them and then hate them so much that you can’t be civil? Circumstances dictate the answer most often, but I get a sense of how someone views their role in a relationship by how they talk about his or her past relationships.


Because of my job at the University I met more than enough men, but I preferred to spend my free time with the friends from the band and the some of my neighbors who were all about the same age.

On Sundays I’d have about 30 people show up and we’d play flag football for a couple of hours and then make these amazing breakfasts. One Thanksgiving there was 45 people in my front room for a sit down Thanksgiving dinner. I’ve never had so much fun. Everyone was so much fun and there was never any drama.

So the idea of dating wasn’t a concern for quite awhile.

Then I fell in love and we hadn’t even dated. He was one of the guys who had lived near me and his family lived in Napa. He asked me to marry him after about a year later, but when he went home to tell his parents, he came back and broke it off with me because I couldn’t have children.

Life lessons are so difficult to understand at the time.

I managed to get through it by dating, a lot!