Passionate: Them: Yes ___ No ___

You either are or you aren’t passionate with an individual mate. Usually, there is a chemical reaction to specific individuals and passion is extremely difficult to manufacture. That is the difference between being passionate and sexually expressive.
Open Minded/Lovemaking: Them: Yes __ No __

Being open minded about intimacy was a challenge for many women prior to the 70’s sexual revolution. But, there are just as many men who don’t care to experiment. What a good fundamental rule about passion, intimacy and being open to a variety of sexual practices, is talk about your comfort levels. Be open and honest about your fears. Trust your partner enough to listen to their concerns. This is an area that you can’t afford to avoid.

A couple of years ago I attend the wedding of two close friends. Prior to their marriage they were very close and occasionally alluded to the incredible sexual relationship they shared. I had lunch with the bride less than a month after their wedding when she suddenly broke down in tears. I encouraged her to talk about what was disturbing her.

One of the sure fire ways to kill a relationship is a lack of passion. Have you ever been in a relationship without passion? I have. For me, everything else began to pale. I became suspicious of him. I was sure he was having an affair. I had already been married once before, so I was very determined to make this marriage work.

I tried everything I could think of from fancy dressing gowns and sexy negligees. I tried being extra aware of how he was acting and as long we weren’t any where near the bedroom, he was as kind and attentive as he had been before we were married.

I felt blindsided and when he refused to to go through counseling. He wouldn’t talk about why he had ceased to have any interest in being intimate.

When two people are passionate and can’t seem to keep their hands off each other, their relationship is more likely to survive difficult times. Without passion, most relationships will be a struggle even in the best of times.

The exception is when neither have any passion. Then I imagine it would seem more like a roommate rather than a relationship.

Either one is not wrong, but being honest about which side of passion you are on, early on in the relationship will save you and your partner a major amount of grief.

Before you involve someone in a relationship, be sure you’re both on the same page.