Open to Compromise: Them: Yes ___ No ___
When necessary, compromise is paramount to equitable relationships. This was one of the hardest skills for me to master. It really is okay to let the other party win. It doesn’t hurt, much! I have found however, that it generates a great sense of caring to allow my partner concessions, especially when I recognize that what we’re dealing with is of great importance to them.
I have learned through the years and relationships to minimize my ownership in most decisions. As you can imagine, I’m not a push-over by any means, but I don’t find it was necessary to hold on to getting my way.
I was asked once if I could remember the biggest argument that I ever had with my husband, and of course I could. Then they asked if I could remember what it was about. That I couldn’t do. What I do remember is how angry I was and how hurt I felt. I felt bruised for a long time. But what we were fighting over wasn’t even important enough to remember five years later. So was it important enough to hurt each other over? I don’t believe so.