Sense Other’s Moods:     Them: Yes ___ No ___

One of the first men I dated after my first marriage had a great personality and was a lot of fun to be with. I was consumed with feelings of inadequacy. I’m sure the projection of my fears was so great that I pushed him away. Imagine trying to enjoy someone who is controlled by an underlying fear, while trying to pretend that everything is all right. Eventually he began to fulfill my greatest fear because the relationship became drudgery, too much so for either of us.

I don’t know if it would have lasted any longer if I had not projected the fear. I do think it would have had a better chance of being a worthwhile relationship if I had acted as though I understood it was based on an equal level of desirability.