Spectator:                      Them: Yes ___ No ___

If you are a spectator and you find yourself being attracted to a participator or even more dramatic, an instigator, you either desperately want to change or you enjoy conflict. It is extremely challenging to have to slow down when you want to be the life of the party or to try and keep up with your partner when you are more comfortable having a quiet evening at home.

Most people don’t consider how important this aspect of being in a relationship can be. When I started dating my ex, he was completely opposite my personality and as far from my comfort levels any one person could be.

He challenged me on nearly every level. I guess I was looking for it, although at the time it seemed to me that it was more of a challenge than I cared to manage on a regular basis.

He was always dragging me to some open house, grand opening, theater premiere or party. I don’t remember ever enjoying any of the events, but I know that I wouldn’t be doing what I do currently if it hadn’t been for his influence.

I have found over the years that I get testy when I have to go through any deep level change. It’s almost like somehow my spirit is aware of it looming in the distance. I don’t think anyone enjoys going through critical change, unless as Jay Leno says “it’s encouraging someone else to do the changing.”

Thankfully, I am an instigator and a participator. Now I find it difficult to be a spectator. I love new experiences and sharing in other’s experiences.