Happy Childhood: Them: Yes ___ No ___I personally do not have that many happy childhood memories that I can conjure up. But looking at pictures, it couldn’t have been all that bad. What I like to look for in a mate is someone who has happy stories of growing up. I have found that they help me learn to take life less seriously. I enjoy being witness to the whimsical attitudes that a creative child produces. Life is too short to take it too seriously too often. Happy children often produce happy well-centered adults.

I can honestly say that I have been a royal pain in the neck in my early relationships.

The other day I made an observation to a friend of mine who was talking about his ex-wife. He said that she was such a control freak and that she never seemed satisfied by anything that he did no matter how hard he tried to please her.

I told him that her reaction was a typical response of someone who wasn’t allowed much of a free reign as a child. Her parents were more than likely over bearing, controlling and didn’t encourage their children to be creative.

He admitted that the description was a fairly accurate of her parents but after twelve years of constantly feeling deflated by never pleasing her, he reached his limit.

If he had been more aware early on, he could have directed her to the many resources that eliminate the ill effects of poor parenting. One method is called Anti-Sabotaging Technique and another is Neural Linguistic Programming.